My data plan has exceeded its limit, so I am forced to live with ‘minimal’ internet nowadays – at least until the data refresh (every 16th of the month). If you’re the type of person who spends most of his time glued to his phone, you would understand my predicament. It’s mostly about the FOMO. But eventually, I realized that disconnecting yourself from social media isn’t really a death sentence. Sure, there’d be a lot of things that you’d miss; but people who value you would also find a way to contact you.
Okay, okay – I’m not 100% offline, I still spend an hour or two checking whatever it is that needs to be checked – probably the first 10 posts I see on my feed. Even so, I already feel that there is a huge difference, especially with the additional time I had for other things.
The only downside to this is when you’re the only person in a group who isn’t using his phone. I experienced this last night when I went out to drink with friends (on a Tuesday night!). As excited as I was because it would be the first time in a long time that I would reconnect with them, I was (at some point) disappointed when I realized that I would be talking to distracted people who are on their phones probably 98% of the time. It’s sad.
Of course we can multitask – but I would love it if I can have a hundred percent of a person’s attention even if just for a few hours. I’m also guilty of checking my phone every once in a while; but I realized I should try to avoid that – especially if the other person isn’t doing it. Maybe the only acceptable time to take out your phone is when you need to take photos (you can fckin instagram it later haha). I promise to make my companion feel that I value the time I spend with him – because that’s how it’s supposed to be.